ITT: I interview girls about dating

[Ash Obtained Kush]

Hey guys! I'm a longtime Smogon lurker, I'm also doing a project for school on dating. I need to a survey a big group of people and turn in the project


Can you guys help critique my questions?

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

3. Who gets away with lying more

Thanks guys! I swear I'm not a troll.! I want to have a good discussion here!!

Share your thoughts!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XD0E1gSr7fc

- I feel like girls tend to date guys that excite them, and that's usually bad boys or confident guys.

- Also girls always get away with lying lol

- And I will save my opinion on gender roles for later, that's such a juicy topic! Ok lol, thanks. I love you guys

Looking forward to Swaggersaurus' comment, I know he is a very chill member here, like I said I'm a lurker.

 

[Synre]

im sure the fine users of smogon will be happy to fill in their observations of girls in animes or w/e

 

[Ash Obtained Kush]

im sure the fine users of smogon will be happy to fill in their observations of girls in animes or w/e

Thanks for your response Synre.

Maybe. It's mostly dating, but I think in Anime as well they date guys who are exciting and confident

I know for sure a lot of people here have been in relationships.

 

[faint]

I think user: Zacchaeus will be of good help to you. He's had a lot of girlfriends.

 

[Ash Obtained Kush]

I think user: Zacchaeus will be of good help to you. He's had a lot of girlfriends.

Well even if you haven't had GFs I'm sure you have female friends, right?

:)

 

[Zacchaeus]

The OP says interviewing girls, and there are only like 6 openly female regulars established in the community here. Also I never said I had a lot, just a few

 

[kittenmay]

Hey I'm a girl, I can do this stuff

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

I really think it depends on the girl. Its not so much "bad boys" vs "nice guys". Its more that they want someone who is interesting (at least consciously, don't go into the whole subconscious thing here). Someone who they know will be worth the effort.

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

They are sexist, yes. But they did have a basis in fact, and to this day guys are stronger and more violent than girls (obviously, barring the exceptions). I don't necessarily agree with the roles, but I understand how they came about.

3. Who gets away with lying more

It depends on the relationship, and the type of people. But to give a blanket statement, girls usually get away with lying more, because girls in general tend to be more manipulative and can guilt trip really well.

 

[kd24]

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

boys who aren't ugly

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

if by this you mean boys who have money and muscles then yes

3. Who gets away with lying more

it depends on how good looking the guy is and how good looking the girl is

 

[kittenmay]

KD is REAAAAAAAAAAAAAALLY bitter

 

[faint]

boys who aren't ugly


if by this you mean boys who have money and muscles then yes


it depends on how good looking the guy is and how good looking the girl is

Hide

 

[cookie]

boys who aren't ugly

Unless you're physically disfigured, as long as you have the charm or the money then looks aren't as big a deal as they are for guys. I know too many people who are decent-looking but are hopeless with girls because they don't have the talk/charm/charisma...

 

[VKCA]

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

 

[az]

hi vine whip!!

i was gonna say you should have just waited until your infractions expired but then cookie gave you a spambot infraction that never expires...

but i don't think you're a spambot...

Unless you're physically disfigured, as long as you have the charm or the money then looks aren't as big a deal as they are for guys. I know too many people who are decent-looking but are hopeless with girls because they don't have the talk/charm/charisma...

i think this post is spot on

i dont wanna get bogged down in quantifying looks and charisma and everything but as a general rule charisma is like the ultimate trump card

girls do get away with lying a lot i guess but people only get away with what you let them get away with sooooooooo

eta: i also think to get a more meaningful response you need to unpack the question "are gender roles sexist?" a little more

also pose it to girls with more than two brain cells between them!!

 

[Solace]

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

i think most girls prefer bad boys generally because they seem to be more exciting on the outside even though theyre total douches

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

yeah definitely, the guy better be paying for ALL the dates
free food is the life

3. Who gets away with lying more

depends on which person in the relationship has lower self esteem and thinks theyre never gonna get another boyfriend/girlfriend

also this is probably not the best place to ask these questions lol

 

[az]

a4m mods and smods+ will enjoy the above post

 

[Nastyjungle]

Are gender roles sexist?

does a bear shit in the woods

 

[kittenmay]

does a bear shit in the woods

No, thats what outhouses are for

 

[zorbees]

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

Rich guys with big penises.

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

They aren't "not sexist".

3. Who gets away with lying more

Whoever is better at lying.

 

[VKCA]

i think most girls prefer bad boys generally because they seem to be more exciting on the outside even though theyre total douches

please...
please tell me you're kidding.

 

[Stratos]

solace is female; she would know

ergo gg me

 

[FlareBlitz]

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

Women prefer dating confident men. The "bad boy" archetype is predominantly viewed as more appealing to women primarily because they are confident and do not seek to please the woman at the expense of themselves.

There is nothing stopping a man from being both nice and confident. A man who is polite, sees value in himself, sees value in others, and lives uncompromisingly according to a set of his own ethics is most likely to be successful with women.

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

Gender roles can be sexist if used to given prescriptive advice about relationships, but there's nothing wrong with having a personal preference that conforms to standard social mores. My girlfriend is very much the "bake pies and clean the house" type, and I highly prefer that.

3. Who gets away with lying more

This is a stupid question.

 

[THE_IRON_...KENYAN?]

Hey FlareDitz why dont you explain why its a stupid question instead of being a dick about it

 

[Shiny Mew2]

First off, I'm the best lurker and the shittiest poster. No one can top me.

1. Do girls prefer dating bad boys or nice guys?

I can't say, as I'm not female. But, from what I saw, typically the people who piss me off get the chicks. So the 1st one, even though the term, "bad" isn't correct. Bitch-cunt is.

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?

Hell yeah.

3. Who gets away with lying more

Whoever can keep a straight face while telling the most unbelievable shit.,

 

[Steamroll]

2. Are gender roles sexist? Neccessary, e.g. Male being provider and protecter?
I usually am not one to go dutch and split the bill, but it really is up to the girl if she also wants to chip in half or at least pay for the tip (from my experience most don't. but a close friend of mine always wanted to split, no matter how expensive). And yeah, money still has a huge factor in getting a date especially when you can't afford to buy someone else dinner.

To the sexism piece, there are plenty of girls who wear the pants in the relationship. Sexism really is just all about perspective and to the person's interpretation.

3. Who gets away with lying more
lol, I'd be lying if I was telling the truth.

 

[Woodchuck]

Just like to point out that a lot of answers in this thread may stem from confirmation bias, especially the one about girls liking "bad boys". It's really easy to remember getting annoyed at your crush going with some jerk over you, as opposed to someone who she actually liked more than you and had a better chance of 'deserving' her in your eyes.

So what may be the more interesting part of this discussion is not how girls perceive bad boys but how people perceive girls perceiving bad boys!

Also lol, I would never do a project like this for school as it seems... extremely subjective. Still, it's your prerogative to choose your own projects, and it might make for interesting/shitty discussion. It could go either way.



...am I the only one who thought the title meant that you would be posting interviews / videos of you interviewing girls about dating? I mean, there are probably better places to ask questions like this than Smogon.