Trust me; I understand, and I'm not trying to say you're doing anything wrong by pointing out someone making heinous statements, nor was I trying to condescend; if it came across that way, I apologize. I suffered as well, and that's why I try to talk to others (even those who act like assholes) in a compassionate manner - because, frankly, the memories of having piss thrown on me, being shoved into lockers, being assaulted in ways I'm not comfortable talking about (primarily from a narcissist as well), and more, it all adds up to where I want to defuse things as much as I can, rather than adding fuel to a fire that can't be controlled. When I said that I was attempting to bring him out of the pipeline, I meant I was trying to show him a different perspective so that he could think about it and come to his own conclusions and make his own choices about his life. It sounds like we've both been through lifelong pain, but I do want to clarify that I'm not trying to fix him, nor am I trying to babysit him, either. I'm trying to do what my grandfather would always do - try to bring out the kindness in everyone around him by being as kind to everyone around him as he could be.